A few years ago, I wrote two blogs during the month of March. The first was entitled, “How will you SURPRISE yourself this SPRING?” https://careermanagementcoaching.wordpress.com/2015/03/20/how-will-you-surprise-yourself-this-spring/? and the second was entitled, “What’s Your 2016 Spring Surprise?” https://careermanagementcoaching.me/2016/03/20/whats-your-2016-spring-surprise/ An anagram for the words Spring Day was included in each Blog. Today, I want to share with you another anagram for the words Spring Day as you Choose Who YOU Want to be Known As.
The above quotation was also quoted by me in a blog published via LinkedIn Pulse https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/what-choice-did-you-make-today-jo-ann-m-radja/? This quotation speaks to us as we remind ourselves that we alone are responsible for our actions. We want to be held accountable for our actions. In today’s climate of accountability within the #MeTooMovement, accountability applies both to women and men.
I borrowed today’s blog title from Marshall Goldsmith as I recently became a Marshall Goldsmith Global Leadership Assessment Certified Practitioner. http://www.sccoaching.com/glof360/. The complete quotation from Marshall Goldsmith reads:
Change is not a one-way street – it involves two parties, the person who is changing and the people who notice it.
We seem to notice when someone has a haircut or wears new clothes; yet, we may not give feedback to someone when we notice a behavior change – and we should do so – we grow when we accept feedback from another person. It takes practice and practice and practice.
When you Choose Who You Want to be Known As, consider this quotation from Marshall Goldsmith:
The only difference between us and the super-successful among us – the near great and the great – is that the great ones [listen] all the time. It’s automatic for them. For them there’s no on and off switch for caring and empathy and showing respect. It’s always on. They don’t rank personal encounters as A, B or C in importance. They treat everyone equally – and everyone eventually notices.
Enjoy your week!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Executive and Career Management Coach
Please excuse the different type face on this blog – there is a glitch somewhere in the software. Thank you.
This month of October, on a National basis, is about Learning in business as well as remembering our heritage. Polish American, Italian American, Hispanic Heritage and German Heritage all celebrate their ancestry background this month.
It’s also National Cyber Security Awareness Month https://www.boozallen.com/c/insight/thought-leadership/booz-allen-kicks-off-national-cybersecurity-awareness-month-2017.html and National Women’s Small Business Month https://www.nwbc.gov/news/10-million-strong-october-council-celebrates-national-women%E2%80%99s-small-business-month. The Balance website hosts an extensive list for you to choose a favorite event: https://www.thebalance.com/october-is-national-month-calendar-3514993
Here in Chicago, events during the year have all led to the celebration of Chicago Ideas Week http://chicagoideas.com from October 16th through October 22. As an example, Professor Marcelo Gleiser, Director the Institute for Cross-Disciplinary Engagement at Dartmouth College spoke at a Symposium on the Future of Intelligence: Human, Machine and Extraterrestrial, sponsored by Chicago Ideas. He asked the question, “Are we engineering our own destruction through technology when we speak about artificial intelligence?” It’s an ethical and scientific dilemma because our intelligence is really about how we move from our present world to the future, including all that’s dark and dangerous, to creating a future that is just and equitable for all society.
As mentioned earlier, this month of October celebrates who we are as a society because all that we have around us places us in a state of constant Learning from the daily occurrences in our lives, both personally and in business. Within the past 30 days of our lives we have experienced or witnessed more tragedy in the USA, than was ever presented before, in non-war time. We mourn all those who left this earth and keep the survivors in our good thoughts for recovery.
Earlier this week, I attended an online Webinar where like-minded people shared their views about our profession and how we can Learn from one another’s experiences. It is because of that discussion that I would like to share with you some ideas for change management in your career. I prepared the format this week and it is based on a business presentation, hosted by the University of Chicago back in 2001. It’s pretty straight forward and timely in today’s environment. Here it is:
As you Choose Who You Want to be Known As during this Learning month, consider how the survivors demonstrated their strength of character and became the best examples of USA humanity for us all.
Over the past few days, I’ve read a number of blogs from Social Media Influencers and Government Leaders. Stories emerged of how dysfunction not only causes breakdowns in communication but reason takes a backseat at a place of work. We may become a bystander to a discussion that causes us to become very uncomfortable and we don’t wish to enter the “fray.”
Some four years ago I was attending a Networking Event and was participating in a conversation between two men who were consultants. One man was from the East Coast and the other lived in a Chicago suburb. Another man, unknown to us, walked up and asked if he could join our group. We welcomed him (the black coat man) and he asked me about my business – that conversation led me to give him a sample coaching session. The man was eager and surprised himself by telling me something he had not told his wife; he was uncomfortable with the disclosure and decided to walk away. The two consultants offered that I shouldn’t have given my time to someone who clearly wasn’t appreciative of joining our discussion group.
What happened next was an example of personal mindfulness. The black coat man walked around the room and said to more than a handful of people, “You see that woman in the red jacket [meaning me] she won’t talk to me.” People began to ask, “Do you know that man?” It was unclear to many why the black coat man continued his pointing at me and saying she won’t talk to me.
Mindfulness allow you to become aware of your surroundings, what you are thinking, what you are feeling and what these sensations mean to you at that moment. Emotional Intelligence is a learned process where mindfulness forms the basis for you to manage yourself and by doing so, manage others. As you manage your emotions you are able to assist someone else likewise. Put another way, you observe what is happening around you, describe what it means to you, accept that someone else has something going on causing a disturbance, don’t take it personally and don’t become judgmental. While it may seem like a balancing act between your mind and your heart, in fact, it is a process that allow you control over how you are in the moment. The image above displays the end result of mind and heart balance – when you are comfortable in the emotional intelligence realm.
Emotional intelligence is a process and it most definitely can be learned. How you act in the moment is what I call, “Choose Who You Want to be Known As.” Since today is the last day of June we have another beginning in our imperfect world tomorrow on July 1st. Have a great month of July in your chosen career path!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Executive and Career Management Coach
When the light around you lessens / And your thoughts darken /. . . Search yourself and see / That it is your own thinking / that darkens your world. John O’Donohue
Earlier this afternoon, the following post was published under the title, “What’s YOUR Elephant in the Room?” https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/whats-your-elephant-room-jo-ann-m-radja Here’s a copy for your reading:
“I just finished reading another LinkedIn Post about the paradox of innovation; namely, termination due to computer innovation. It took courage for an innovation expert who advises companies about innovation to share his personal story of how and why it came to be that his company fired staff. Yet, that ELEPHANT in the room idiom, had to be handled in a manner considering the employee’s best interest.
When we think about the idiom phrase of handling “the ELEPHANT in the room,” it usually refers to a subject matter that no one wants to discuss. Our brain perceives the conflict greater than it may be, represented by a large insurmountable figure.
Business Leaders accept the fact that the challenge of an ELEPHANT in the room must be dealt with. It is a conflict. Sometimes all that needs to be done is to have a conversation and the ELEPHANT is no longer in the room. Neuroscience, however, has offered a remarkable perspective, using an analogy of a Rider and an Elephant. The perspective is given by a Massachusetts Institute of Technology Neuroscientist, Mr. Emile Bruneau.
Bruneau explains the analogy as an example of how the brain handles conflict by stating – all the Rider can do is to train the Elephant because the Elephant is more powerful that the Rider. The Rider cannot control or fully understand the Elephant. While this story is recited in a Post by the United States Institute of Peace in an effort to teach people how to deal with conflict. I believe it speaks volumes for the business actions we are involved with. A tool is introduced to deal with conflict, “universal empathy.” http://www.usip.org/olivebranch/2016/05/05/dalai-lama-offers-hope-youth-leaders-and-vice-versa?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_term=event&utm_campaign=events_weekly
We know we cannot control another individual. Since we do not understand the perspective of the individual, represented by the Elephant idiom, we need to ask open-ended questions so that a two-sided conversation takes place. The How of this neuroscience perspective is to approach an Elephant in the room, with universal empathy. Questions such as, “How would you describe. . .” “What did you think would happen if . . .? “What did you expect would happen. . .”
What’s remarkable is that neuroscience now helps to explain the issue of how the ELEPHANT in the room, comes to be – in the first place. The ELEPHANT is an idiom character representing conflict, triggered by an unconscious bias. The tool — new phrase of “universal empathy” becomes a positive application to use with the conflict idiom.
The term “universal empathy” may become mainstream because it is an inclusive term. We want and do take the first step in handling a conflict. As we begin to practice the use of universal empathy – when we access our own Pause button – perhaps we can alleviate the ELEPHANT idiom character showing up. It’s another way of handling ourselves and Choosing Who We Want to be Known As in our chosen career. Have a great week!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Executive and Career Management Coach”
Earlier today I published two anagrams you might enjoy reading on LinkedIn Pulse at https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/whats-contrary-you-jo-ann-m-radja. The text of that post now follows:
C onventional wisdom
O ften, yet not always, is right.
N ow is the time
T o consider whether the
R isk we’ve focused on merits,
A n all-out program
R oll-out this quarter. I vote
Y es. How about you?©Jo Ann M. Radja
E nergy to keep up with
T he reading
H as its downside. The upside
I s the kernel of applicability to understand
C onsequences we face in the
S hort term.©Jo Ann M. Radja
Have a great Fall Season in your career as you Choose Who You want to be Known As.
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Executive & Career Management Coach
A trusted friend of mine and I had interesting chats about how office politics is like story plots from Alice in Wonderland, by Lewis Carroll. While we both held management positions, you do need to have an outlet in the office where “venting” can occur. It was always a safe conversation, without violating any departmental confidences. In fact, when we were close to ending the talk, we both looked forward to saying, “It’s like Alice in Wonderland, isn’t it.” We smiled, and moved onto the next Curiouser and Curiouser situation we were paid to handle.
Today, some 150 years after Alice in Wonderland was published, we apply curiosity differently in our careers. Curiosity is a good thing, especially in a coaching environment. People want to be understood and a Coach wants to understand the client to facilitate the client achieving the agreed, targeted goal.
Curious – an act of empathy to learn from and engage another person.©
Curiosity – An emotional concept for serving another person.©
Curiouser and Curiouser – An ability of demonstrating servant leadership in the workplace.©
Have a great week As You Choose Who You Want to be Known As when curiosity presents itself!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent
Our system of morality is a body of imperfect social generalizations expressed in terms of emotions. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
Early in the morning, he wanted
He was late for almost an hour and never apologized.
It seemed he totally forgot.
Can leaders make mistakes? Yes, they can. A
Servant Leader would own his accountability. ©
Everyone was ready for the meeting. It
Touched many to
Hear the first Speaker’s enthusiasm of her strategy, that
Increased attention to the message. It
Caused many to sit up.
So keep an open mind for the name of the industry as the
company’s name may surprise you. ©
Have a great week in your Career!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach & Change Agent
If you’re interested, The Society of Corporate Compliance & Ethics (SCCE) has expert videos for you to take a look at: http://www.corporatecompliance.org/Resources/ResourceOverview/ExpertVideos.aspx
Is it the end, or the beginning. You DECIDE.
We often consider what’s left to do during the month of December. Many cultures within our communities celebrate a number of holidays in December, usually with streams of LIGHT. What if December doesn’t take a back seat, ever! What if you start considering what’s important to you today in your career and what you presently know you have to work at to achieve it. Here are a number of food for thought quotations for you to consider:
Make a pact with yourself today to not be defined by your past. Sometimes the greatest thing to come out of all your hard work isn’t what you get for it, but what you become for it. Shake things up today! Be You…Be Free…Share. Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
If your dream is a big dream, and if you want your life to work on the high level that you say you do, there’s no way around doing the work it takes to get you there. Joyce Chapman
The three great essentials to achieve anything worthwhile are, first, hard work; second, stick-to-itiveness; third, common sense. Thomas A. Edison
Sometimes there’s not a better way. Sometimes there’s only the hard way. Mary E. Pearson, The Fox Inheritance
Every job from the heart is, ultimately, of equal value. The nurse injects the syringe; the writer slides the pen; the farmer plows the dirt; the comedian draws the laughter. Monetary income is the perfect deceiver of a man’s true worth. Criss Jami
She was tough in the best sense of the word. She’d taken blows, the disappointments, and had worked her way through them. Some people, he knew, would have buckled under, found a clutch, or given up. But she had carved a place for herself and made it work. Nora Roberts
All success comes down to this . . . action. Rob Liano
Whatever action comes to mind, Choose Who You Want to be Known As. Have a great 1st week of December.
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Executive and Career Management Coach
Note: The above quotations are found at http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/hard-work.