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Belief, Believed, Believing…
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A thousand words will not leave so deep an impression as one deed. Henrik Ibsen
Recently, I heard a statement made by former President Bill Clinton that made me stop what I was doing because I chose to believe what he said. (http://www.nbcnews.com/meet-the-press/meet-press-transcript-june-29-2014-n143826). I was reminded how often we believe what we hear because it may make sense to us, yet it doesn’t meet the reality of facts. What leads us to believe something is true or not? Belief, Believed, Believing may come into play with our answer.
We say, I can’t believe it” — when we hear good news about someone we know and we say, “I can’t believe it” when we hear very sad news about a tragedy. On the other hand, we choose to believe our impressions of someone we just met, because we have a belief our judgment is correct. Our birth and business cultures strongly influence us as to our Beliefs, what we Believed and are Believing. Our experiences and schooling surely play out in our Beliefs as well. As we are approaching the remembrance of the founding of our country in a few days, why do we believe so strongly in America and its values?
What we regard as true is a belief. Frequently in our careers, we may be asked to describe what we do for a living and how we would describe what we do in a few words. We want our answers believed.
As we Choose Who We Want to be Known As – We Believe in ourselves and what we do. Have a great Holiday Week!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent
Notes: http://www.nbcnews.com/meet-the-press/meet-press-transcript-june-29-2014-n143826.
The description of the word “belief”, Roget’s 21st Century Thesaurus, Third Edition Copyright © 2013 by the Philip Lief Group.
One Up, One Down and What’s You?
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Dancing is just part of the discovery, discovery, discovery. Martha Graham
During your career, have you danced in the dance of “One Up, One Down and What’s You?” It’s been happening frequently in the Midwest this Spring. The dance begins when you meet someone and you start a conversation. The What’s You dance occurs when the sincerity of both people leads the dance and each person dances away from an engaging business conversation. The One Up dance starts shortly after the conversation begins and one person keeps circling around the other, demonstrating a perceived betterment, for whatever reason. This dance usually ends as each party has opposite views and a sense of connectedness was lacking in the dance. The One Down dance takes more time. Patience, Humility, Curiosity or Discovery of self, or the other, is flowing through the conversational dance. Both people feel they have left the dance with a takeaway to be used or considered in the future. While I just described three dances, I know you can name many others. What type of career dance have you participated in this Spring? What did you discover about yourself and has it helped you in your career? What should have happened that didn’t? What first step are you able to take, to move closer to the conversation dance that you want? Summer officially begins during the latter part of this week. I hope this Summer Season in your career brings you closer to the dance where YOU Choose Who You Want to be Known As. Have a great week! “Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach & Change Agent Note: http://www.wordpress/disclosures
Judging, judged, judge
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The frog never judges, never evaluates, and never gives advice – it merely offers questions. Dr. Karl Albrecht
Frequently in our careers, we find ourselves being judged by our actions, or lack of action on an issue. How do we handle it? We may answer, “I forgot,” “I guess I didn’t make it a priority.” “Thanks for reminding me, I’ll take care of it right now.” The answers are many and varied in response to someone who may be in a situation of Judging, Judged or Judge. Dr. Karl Albrecht in his 2004 book entitled, Conversations With a Frog (http://www.amazon.com/Conversations-Frog-Dr-Karl-Albrecht/dp/0913351172) guides us to consider asking questions and not evaluate or judge someone because within a professional coaching situation, questions are the norm.
Dr. Wayne Dyer offers the following thought:
This quotation begs the question of whether how you would act in a situation comes out in a conversation and not how the person you may be speaking to has acted. It’s a learned practice not to judge others. Experts tells us a new habit can be learned within some 21 days. The Season of Spring often helps us look forward to new ways and opportunities to develop ourselves. If it’s a good fit for you, consider how you Choose Who You Want to be Known As in the next situation of Judging, Judged, Judge.
Have a wonder Spring Season in your Career!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach & Change Agent
Feed, Fodder or Feedback
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Feed, fodder or feedback — it’s the Monday morning “quarterbacking” of what your impressions, comments and responses are about an event, project or idea. Within our culture, the idiom, “Feeding frenzy” is an aggressive attack on someone by a group. … Continue reading
What’s your Influence?
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You don’t have to be a “person of influence” to be influential. In fact, the most influential people in my life are probably not even aware of the things they’ve taught me. Scott Adams We’re saying good-bye tomorrow to the year … Continue reading
The SOMETHING we deal with wherever we are…
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Last week when I awoke, it was one degree outside. When I came home, some 13 hours later and as I opened my car door and stepped out, it felt wonderful and much warmer. It really did. I checked my cell phone and was surprised to read it was only 14 degrees. What? That’s all? The something we deal with wherever we are is getting through our day the best we can by being resilient.
Snow fell this week in Vietnam; it caused a traffic jam, not primarily because of the weather. Many people who had never seen snow drove to see where it fell. Snow fell over the Middle East as well. A Jordanian Prince joined other people to help a motorist out of a snow bank. Below is a Picasso image of resilience that the editor(s) of http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/ chose to represent resilience. What do you think?
When we are at our workplace, the SOMETHING we deal with usually comes up when an emotional response takes place. [Should I take a moment and manage my emotions before speaking to anyone else?] How did this happen? What’s the first response to our staff? What information do we need that we don’t as yet have? What must we address right now, later today or tomorrow? How am I dealing with the element of survival at this moment? What can I do that I haven’t done before to control myself, and remain aware of what’s going on to assist other people?
As you choose Who You Want to be Known As this week, when YOU deal with that SOMETHING, consider this – – – 
I hope you Shine brightly, whatever your activity this week.
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent
Note: The images shown in this blog post were allowed to be copied and pasted from Google Images.
December doesn’t take a back seat, ever!
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Is it the end, or the beginning. You DECIDE.
We often consider what’s left to do during the month of December. Many cultures within our communities celebrate a number of holidays in December, usually with streams of LIGHT. What if December doesn’t take a back seat, ever! What if you start considering what’s important to you today in your career and what you presently know you have to work at to achieve it. Here are a number of food for thought quotations for you to consider:
Make a pact with yourself today to not be defined by your past. Sometimes the greatest thing to come out of all your hard work isn’t what you get for it, but what you become for it. Shake things up today! Be You…Be Free…Share. Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
If your dream is a big dream, and if you want your life to work on the high level that you say you do, there’s no way around doing the work it takes to get you there. Joyce Chapman
The three great essentials to achieve anything worthwhile are, first, hard work; second, stick-to-itiveness; third, common sense. Thomas A. Edison
Sometimes there’s not a better way. Sometimes there’s only the hard way. Mary E. Pearson, The Fox Inheritance
Every job from the heart is, ultimately, of equal value. The nurse injects the syringe; the writer slides the pen; the farmer plows the dirt; the comedian draws the laughter. Monetary income is the perfect deceiver of a man’s true worth. Criss Jami
She was tough in the best sense of the word. She’d taken blows, the disappointments, and had worked her way through them. Some people, he knew, would have buckled under, found a clutch, or given up. But she had carved a place for herself and made it work. Nora Roberts
All success comes down to this . . . action. Rob Liano
Whatever action comes to mind, Choose Who You Want to be Known As. Have a great 1st week of December.
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Executive and Career Management Coach
Note: The above quotations are found at http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/hard-work.
Symbol of GRATITUDE
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Neuroscience is understanding the fundamental nature of ourselves…how we think, feel and do. Dr. Charles “Ed” Connor
Two days ago in my home State of Illinois, a multitude of tornadoes struck communities in at least 13 Counties. [It was reported some 17 tornadoes were sited and by Monday morning, 80 tornadoes blew through the Midwest Region.]
Many people who were interviewed, spoke about how grateful they were to be alive. While their home was destroyed, they could rebuild. While their possessions were taken in this act of nature, their life was spared. While years of joy in maintaining and furnishing their home was wiped out in a second or two, they were in a community of friends and neighbors (nearby and within Illinois), who gave them solace and friendship. The SYMBOL OF GRATITUDE resided in their hearts. Finding the personal truth in yourself during a time of crisis is a learned virtue as these citizens Chose Who they wanted to Be Known As.
The symbol of gratitude itself has been a bit difficult to track down. The circle is an accepted symbol of inclusiveness and represents many aspects of our human nature. Our Global community throughout the world has roots within the spirituality of GRATITUDE and the use of a circle symbol.
An art exhibit entitled, “Beauty and the Brain Revealed” is presently on display at the AAAS Art Gallery in Washington, D.C. Five days ago, Megan Gambino posted a Blog explaining this Art Exhibit http://blogs.smithsonianmag.com/artscience/2013/11/do-our-brains-find-certain-shapes-more-attractive-than-others/). Her Blog included a brief video of two Neuroscience Experts who discuss how our brains relate to abstract shapes.
Whether from exemplary observations of our neighbors or from recognized Neuroscientists, Choose Who You Want to be Known As in your careers, during this wintry week of November, 2013.
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach
Notes: “Beauty and the Brain Revealed” is on display at the AAAS Art Gallery in Washington, D.C., through January 3, 2014. Read more: http://blogs.smithsonianmag.com/artscience/2013/11/do-our-brains-find-certain-shapes-more-attractive-than-others/#ixzz2l6p7kWlg Follow us: @SmithsonianMag on Twitter
Why do we find some works of art so appealing? The exhibition Beauty and the Brain Revealed at the American Association for the Advancement of Science builds on a 2010 collaboration between the Zanvyl Krieger Mind/Brain Institute at the Johns Hopkins University and
the Walters Art Museum to examine how the brain perceives abstract sculpture. The original project was initiated and funded by the Johns Hopkins Brain Science Institute. Gallery visitors will wear 3-D glasses to explore digitally morphed versions of sculpture and learn how 3-D
shape characteristics relate to aesthetic preferences. Through January 3, 2014
http://srhrl.aaas.org/projects/science_society/neurosociety/art.shtml November 19, 2013.
Vulnerability
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It’s not often that we speak about vulnerability in our private lives. We tend to look to the experts around us to assess and manage the risks we may be exposed to in our neighborhoods, our communities and the world at large. Our governments strive to keep order for the common good and our well being. Yet, Vulnerability is an attribute we may not apply to ourselves. Speaking positively, we are, have been and will continue to be vulnerable. It’s how we learn about ourselves.
Staff within the Federal Government (at fs.fed.us) describe Vulnerability this way:
What’s the exposure if we pursue this strategy? How are we ready because we’ve taken into account our sensitivities? Will our contemplated action(s) be in keeping with our value system?
Adjustment goes hand in hand with being vulnerable as demonstrated by the following graph from a Peace Corps worker named Bailey:
Choosing to become vulnerable allows you to work though and learn about yourself in ways you had not considered before. If you drew your last few months of activities, what would your graph look like? How often did you consider yourself to be Vulnerable? What sensitivities did you realize you had by letting go of a habit, or by learning something new?
A well-known International Coaching Expert, Brené Brown describes Vulnerability as follows:
Very recently, I attended a two-day Coaching Seminar on cultural competency. I participated in a brief exercise to understand and recognize Vulnerability. It was an enlightening experience. So please enjoy your activities during this first full week of November as You Choose Who You Want to be Known As.
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent
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