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It’s the 2nd day of Christmas and I wanted to share with you a few links you might enjoy. Greetings from the Midwest!
http://www.forbes.com/sites/augustturak/2014/12/24/a-christmas-parable-on-leadership/
http://www.forbes.com/sites/trulia/2014/12/17/13-holiday-party-hacks
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach & Change Agent
When I was growing up, I often heard the phrase, “What does your gut tell you?” or, “I’ve got a sick feeling in my stomach about this.” The phrase of listening to your gut has come into vogue again because neuroscience has recognized the gut communicates to the brain faster than your heart. Why is this important to know as we just finished the Halloween and Election events? Perhaps it is because trust is still an illusion. We want it, we rely on it and when it is not present in our lives, it causes disharmony that we learn to live with or just accept it because “that’s the way it is.”
While we trust our guts to assist us as we get ready for the early Winter weather in the month of November, we can learn to trust our guts in other situations. As you Choose Who You Want to be Known As this week, what positive value do you want people to know about you? Have a great week.
Yesterday I published a Post on the social media platform of LinkedIn and I am sharing it with you below. (https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/article/20141105210316-32215190–illusion-of-trust-as-an-ethical-value?trk=prof-post)
“Illusion of Trust” as an Ethical Value Nov 5 2014
While browsing for information online, I saw a link from The Good Men Project. I clicked to a Blog Post from the Executive Editor, Thomas G. Fiffer. I was intrigued by Thomas Fiffer’s choice of language and the above quotation is a phrase directly from his Blog of October 28, 2014. The Title of Thomas Fiffer’s Blog is, “3 Ways to Deal with Toxic Relationships.” http://www.goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/3-ways-spot-toxic-partner/
The first way is: If you’re familiar with the 80/20 rule – speaking only 20% of the time in a relationship indicates it is dysfunctional. In other words, you give your own power of self-worth to another person.
The second way is: “Attraction creates the illusion of trust.” Fiffer recommends you listen to your gut when your judgment is being put aside for the other. When it comes down to it – why are you not paying attention to the feeling of, “something is not right here.”
Finally the third way appears to be derived from a social science or neuroscience perspective. Fiffer explains that when you are ruled by fear, you don’t act rationally and are unable to accept rational explanations. This appears to be so because the fear reaction, once triggered, will not stop until it is soothed.
As you manage your career, how often do you trust your gut in contract to your personal experience with an issue? How often has your gut enabled the right decision for you (or at least the best possible)? Do you keep an open mind first and then trust your gut, or the reverse? Interesting questions to consider during this first week in November.
I’m grateful I followed the linked and learned about The Good Men Project and hope to read Thomas G. Fiffer again. As you Choose Who You Want to be Known As, consider how often you trust and rely on your gut instincts to make informed decisions. Enjoy your month of November in your career.
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent”
The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.
Albert Einstein
It’s the first day of the Autumn Season and I hope you feel the energy of this day, i.e., a new beginning. Here in the Midwest, a few trees and low shrubbery are beginning to show their Fall colors of gold, orange and red. So I wonder, do you have time for yourself, have your timed out of a deadline or are you timely in submitting your project update. Whatever today’s timetable/calendar holds for you to accomplish, I’d like to share a news article with you.
Early this morning, I read an article about Albert Einstein and his prediction, known as the “Time Dilation.” (While there are a few definitions of the word Dilation, it is often referred to as the swelling of your iris, during an eye-exam.) The article is entitled, “Einstein’s ‘Time Dilation’ Prediction Verified.” Scientists have conclusively verified, “That time moves slower for a moving clock than a stationary one.” In other words, motion speed slows down our aging process if we travel in a speed rocket.
Since many of us will not have the opportunity to travel via a speed rocket, we are able to consider how often we recognize, when we are busy, time flies by. If we become stationary, we have a different sense of how we manage our time. Rushing to finish a task at work doesn’t necessarily mean it will be done well. Yet we may actually feel time moving much more quickly because we are in motion. Perhaps Einstein’s Theory also helps us understand why we feel it takes less time to come home from an event than it took to reach the event.
I must govern the clock, not be governed
by it. Golda Meir
As you Choose Who You Want to be Known as this week, I hope you manage your time, are timely and won’t be timed out of a deadline. Have a great week!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent
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Note: “Einstein’s ‘Time Dilation’ Prediction Verified at http://www.scientific american.com/article/einsteins-time-dilation-prediction-verified/ This article was published on 09/22/14.
Here’s a Post which was published by LinkedIn.com within the past half-hour.:
“Have you ever been told, “That’s not what you are supposed to do. That responsibility belongs to someone else.” While you may have a Title for your position, it doesn’t necessarily explain what you actually do. A Form usually relates to one thing and a Function relates to the activity of a specific Form.
The answer may lie in what binds the Function to the Form, whether by a job description, perceptions, testimonials or accomplishments. As we begin to think about our upcoming Labor Day – how would you describe what you do – is it Form over Function or Function over Form?
What do your customers expect from you. . . Function or Form? How often has it happened to you that you visit a retail store and what you wanted to buy is not sold by the Form name of the retail store? Perhaps you contacted an Accounting firm, only to learn that the specialty service you want to hire is not found within the firm’s members? Form over function sounds simple, but it isn’t.
Another way of looking at form over function and function over form is to consider the word “feedback”. Is feedback just a comment or response, or your understanding of what was said, or advice, or an opinion or a demonstration of your listening skills? While you may have merely given encouragement to someone’s decision, it was received as advice, which was not your intention. Perhaps this topic is another puzzle for us to work out in our careers because we live in a fluid, every-changing world.
Consider as you Choose How You Want to be Known As, what is your answer to the Form or Function question. Have a great day!”
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent
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I published a Post on LinkedIn.com this morning, and hope you find value in it’s message: http://www.linkedin.com/pulse/article/20140811163252-32215190-hear-heard-and-hearing “Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent
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Mistakes are the portals of discovery. James Joyce Since we are not perfect, we often place stress on ourselves when we don’t fully understand what happened following a “blip” in our careers. Was it a mistake or a … Continue reading
Dancing is just part of the discovery, discovery, discovery. Martha Graham
During your career, have you danced in the dance of “One Up, One Down and What’s You?” It’s been happening frequently in the Midwest this Spring. The dance begins when you meet someone and you start a conversation. The What’s You dance occurs when the sincerity of both people leads the dance and each person dances away from an engaging business conversation. The One Up dance starts shortly after the conversation begins and one person keeps circling around the other, demonstrating a perceived betterment, for whatever reason. This dance usually ends as each party has opposite views and a sense of connectedness was lacking in the dance. The One Down dance takes more time. Patience, Humility, Curiosity or Discovery of self, or the other, is flowing through the conversational dance. Both people feel they have left the dance with a takeaway to be used or considered in the future. While I just described three dances, I know you can name many others. What type of career dance have you participated in this Spring? What did you discover about yourself and has it helped you in your career? What should have happened that didn’t? What first step are you able to take, to move closer to the conversation dance that you want? Summer officially begins during the latter part of this week. I hope this Summer Season in your career brings you closer to the dance where YOU Choose Who You Want to be Known As. Have a great week! “Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach & Change Agent Note: http://www.wordpress/disclosures
Don’t look down on people unless you’re trying to pull them up. Anonymous Early Friday evening she heard That’s her – and she was called a b_ t_h. He continued in bad form a few minutes later. It’s always surprising how often you need to Control your reactions So the situation is diffused and not reactive.© Entering the store, she immediately felt uneasy, although she was Told the preceding evening to come to the store. Having reached the counter, she was quizzed as to why she was in the store. It became clear her words were not believed. She Carefully reached for her phone and Showed the call details. Workplace public treatment of customers can discount good behavior of other employees.© As you CHOOSE WHO YOU WANT to be BE KNOWN AS this consider how you handle your close encounters. Enjoy your week! “Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Agent and Change Agent Note: http://www.wordpress.com/disclaimers
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then. . . is a habit. Aristotle
A trusted friend of mine and I had interesting chats about how office politics is like story plots from Alice in Wonderland, by Lewis Carroll. While we both held management positions, you do need to have an outlet in the office where “venting” can occur. It was always a safe conversation, without violating any departmental confidences. In fact, when we were close to ending the talk, we both looked forward to saying, “It’s like Alice in Wonderland, isn’t it.” We smiled, and moved onto the next Curiouser and Curiouser situation we were paid to handle.
Today, some 150 years after Alice in Wonderland was published, we apply curiosity differently in our careers. Curiosity is a good thing, especially in a coaching environment. People want to be understood and a Coach wants to understand the client to facilitate the client achieving the agreed, targeted goal.
Curious – an act of empathy to learn from and engage another person.©
Curiosity – An emotional concept for serving another person.©
Curiouser and Curiouser – An ability of demonstrating servant leadership in the workplace.©
Have a great week As You Choose Who You Want to be Known As when curiosity presents itself!
“Jo Ann” M. Radja, Career Management Coach and Change Agent
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